Friday, August 8, 2014

Yes My Kid Looks Different Now Mind Your Business

   I’ve got a wonderful 10 year old daughter that is much like any other 10 year old. Her name is Nikki and she enjoys playing with Barbie and watching goofy movies. She fights with her siblings to no end and talks my ear off when she stumbles across something new and interesting. What makes her different? She has Vitiligo and it breaks my heart. She has had it since she was 5 years old.

   We’ve gone through all of the treatment she could stand. The steroid creams, laser treatment and laying in natural sun light. Nikki got tired of it all and the lasers ended up causing painful “sun burns”.

   Over the years we have kind of just not noticed it because we are used to seeing her and not her skin. However, when we go in public it’s a different story. Believe it or not adults are the worst. Their stares really piss me off. I expect it from children but not adults. Then there are the ignorant questions… “Did she get burned?” Really?! Last I checked it wasn’t anyone’s business. I couldn’t imagine myself going up to someone and asking what’s wrong with their child. Truth be told I did have some choice words for a lady in the grocery store one day because she couldn’t stop staring. Not very grown up of me but hey a mama bear protects her cubs.

   In the beginning she would come home crying because of the kids at school teasing her or asking what color she is. She soon learned how to deal with it in her own way.

   Not everyone is like that thou. Recently we were out and a lady whom I’ve never met before came up to me when my daughter was out of earshot and told me how beautiful she was. I truly appreciated her kind words.

   Honestly I think Nikki’s Vitiligo upsets me more than her. She doesn’t let the way she looks stop her from doing anything. She loves gymnastics and plans on being an Olympic gold medalist. With her strong will and ability not to let other people get to her she can accomplish anything she puts her mind to.


Are there any other parents out there dealing with anything like this? If so, how do you deal with it? I would love to know.



8 comments:

  1. I am so sorry to hear that about Nikki. But you know what she's just that much more special, unique and beautiful. I would make sure to tell her how gorgeous she is and that this is just one more thing that makes her special. I am the same way as you, I get so deffensive when it comes to my daughter and instead of saying mama bear I say mama cheetah (since we love cheetahs) always protects her cub. There's a reason you and I get along so well it's because we're so much alike. I am so disgusted my the audacity of some people to comment or stare at a child or even talk about them. Like seriously STFU no one asked them for their opinion. But anyways I am so proud to hear Nikki is so strong, she is going to go so far in life and no matter what happens she can accomplish anything as long as she puts her mind to it.

    Have a fab weekend darling.

    --Me And My Mini Me
    www.meandmyminime.com

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    1. Thank you for your kind words. I just chalk it up to people have no manners. They don't think before they speak and don't realize what they're doing.

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  2. Wow, people are crazy! I am so sorry you are going through this, as a parent we want the easiest road possible for our children. But kids are so tough and, like you said, it prob does bother you more than it bothers her. She sounds like a strong, beautiful young lady and this will only make her stronger! :)

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    1. People are crazy. Its just so disturbing that they act that way. If it was the other way around i'm sure they would behave better. Kids are so innocent and deserve to be treated with respect. Thank you for your positivity.

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  3. I'm not sure why, but it's the uneducated mannerless folks who approach difference with dumb questions and concerns. You would expect it from a young child because they don't know any better. I'm not sure how I'd handle this. As a parent I would want to protect my child, but in the same breath I would want her to be strong and able to handle the stares and remarks that are sure to come her way in days to come. Nikki sounds like a well adjusted child who seems to be dealing with her skin condition quite nicely. I found this link that Nikki and you may be interested in. Big hugs for America's future Olympic gymnast!

    http://www.people.com/article/americas-next-top-model-chantelle-brown-young-vitiligo-cycle-21-tyra-banks

    Barbara @ www.allmylivesnow.com

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    1. Thank you so much Barbara. Nikki and I both loved the article. We stopped watching ANTM a while ago but will definitely be watching it this season. I think you're right thou, it is the mannerless ones that do it. I guess I'm just naive in thinking that adults know how to act like adults.

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  4. I had to Google this because I wasn't sure what it was. How awful that people act that way. As a former childcare provider I ran into a lot of ignorance like this. One of my first encounters, I was on a field trip with a group of children and one of our kids had a walker. A random woman came up and said, "Poor thing... she is cute though." Since I was with a group of children and couldn't act unprofessional I had to bite my tongue and simply said, "We're on a field trip ma'am, and she is doing fine."

    It bothered me so much. I conversed privately with this child's mom later on. I wanted her to know what happened independent of hearing it from her child... just so she would know what happened. The mom told me how she gets these types of remarks all the time and I was floored. What is wrong with people?!

    Thanks for sharing (and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop).

    Wishing you a lovely weekend.
    xoxo

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    1. Thats just horrible. People can be so rude. Its so sad they think its ok to say things like that.
      Thanks for sharing that story Jennifer.

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