Tuesday, September 2, 2014

The Reality of Raising 7 Kids


I didn't grow up with a large family. It was me, my mom and my younger sister. However, both of my parents came from large families. My maternal grandmother had 7 kids and my paternal grandmother had 12!! Growing up I never thought I would have ANY kids at all. If future me would have come back to the past to tell teenage me I was going to have 7 kids I would check myself into rehab right away because obviously future me was on drugs! But here I am with 7 kids and no drugs so I must be crazy.

People ask me all of the time "How do you do it with so many kids?" by "It" I think they mean not run screaming into the night never to return, not ball up into the fetal position with a bottle of the hardest alcohol I can find or feed and clothe them all. I'm pretty sure they mean the latter but hey I pat myself on the back for not doing the first two.

Truth is when it comes to having 7 kids the following facts are indeed my reality. 

There is always fighting: Now I know all siblings fight but in my house there can be several arguments going on at one time. I can't referee them all at once so I either break up the most hostile one or I leave them all alone. They'll tire out eventually. 

Food doesn't last: It's bad enough there is always a cashier that thinks we're having a party when in actuality I'm just doing my weekly shopping. Some times I just smile and go with it. However, no amount of food will last for too long especially in a house with teenagers. 

Your's, Mine and Ours: Having 7 kids means having a house full of kids that aren't always our own. I personally don't mind them having friends over but hubby is another story.

Ok So most of the time we are having a party: 7 kids means 7 birthdays, then there's holidays and anniversaries and parents get parties too right? Out of 12 months of the year we only have 2 when nothing is being celebrated. 

My house is a mess: There is only one time out of a 24 hr period when my house is clean... when we're asleep. The house gets clean after dinner only to be destroyed again the next day. 

Team No Sleep: All parents are a part of this team I've just been on it for the past 16 years. I've grown to look at night time as grown up nap time. 

Money lasts as long as sleep does: Everyone needs something at the same time. Shoes, school supplies, field trips, diapers, friend's birthday, a puppy and a partridge in a pear tree. 

So you see my reality is the same as every other parents its just in bigger doses. Raising kids is raising kids, there's a lot of money and work involved but there's also a lot of love. So I guess the next time a parent asks me how I do it, I'll tell them "The same as you just 7 times the work."

14 comments:

  1. This is fabulous! You are spot on and hilarious :)

    Night time really is just a glorified nap time and the grocery shopping is insane and there are only 6 people in my house!

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    1. I think that's what we'll call it from now on a "Glorified Nap Time" lol I dislike grocery shopping SO much! Aren't big families awesome thou?!

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  2. I love this!! You are super mom doll. I don't know how you can raise 7 kids and look absolutely radiant and stunning while doing it. You go girl!

    --Me And My Mini Me
    www.meandmyminime.com

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    1. Thank you! Believe me it takes waking up before the little ones just to run a comb through my hair and put on some lipgloss :)

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  3. :) as a mom of only 3, I am also a card carrying member of team No Sleep. I know that there is always fighting, competing for mommy time, and someone always needs something even in my small house but it's always filled with love and laughter too and I wouldn't change it except to maybe add another one or two.. :)

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    1. That's awesome! The love and laughter are the best parts. I wouldn't trade any of mine for anything in the world. A nap would be nice thou.

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  4. It was five of us growing up so I feel you on this one. Great post.

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    1. Big families are awesome thou aren't they?! :)

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  5. I can't imagine how much money you spend on groceries. It seemed like there was a big jump going from a famly of two to a family of three and an even bigger jump going to a family of four for us. I still can't beleive how much it takes to feed two adults and two little ones. I enjoyed reading about your family. Stopping by from the SITS Sharefest.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by Sonya. It wasn't so bad when they were younger but now with teenagers in the house its ridiculous!

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  6. I'm the oldest of 7 kids-- but there's aren't any really little ones left in my family, my baby sister is now 7. We've always eaten a mountain of food, but I think the messiness goes down significantly when the kids are old enough to clean the house themselves. My Mom doesn't cook or clean almost at all any more, since she works full-time and has so many teenagers capable of cooking for the family and taking care of everything the house needs! That IS the cool bonus of having a ton--when all 7 of us got to work cleaning the house, we could have every last bit of the house shining in an hour because work divided between so many means that we didn't have to work for long.
    One thing being in a big family did teach me was to hide my food. I can be pretty protective of food because I definitely know what it is to run out! :P

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    1. That is so awesome you were raised with so many siblings! It sounds like your mom ran a pretty tight ship. I love that my 5 oldest kids are able to clean and cook when they need to. Even my toddler picks up after himself. I know once they all get a little older it will be a lot smoother but the food will still be gone lol

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  7. How awesome to have such a big family! Kuddos to you for all you do. I thought the constant fighting was bad with just 2 kids...I can only imagine what it's like with 7!
    www.518nymammaof2.blogspot.com

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    1. LOL I can barely remember back to when I just had 2 but I can imagine there were still a lot of fights. It is a lot of fun having a big family.

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