Even thou I’m not a rookie at having kids; I’m more than willing to take helpful advice. Even if it is from a TV show and not given to me directly. My favorite show at the time is How I Met Your Mother. Thank goodness for Netflix! I like to have marathons in middle of the night when I can’t sleep. It was one of these nights mid marathon when I came across an episode that was based around Lily and Marshall. They were still getting used to being new parents and were exhausted! Anyone that’s a parent knows you barely have time for your own drama let alone anyone else’s! So is born the “8 or Higher” rule they gave all of their friends. Basically no one was allowed to bother them with ANY of their problems unless it ranked an 8 or higher in importance.
I thought that was the best idea EVERRRR. So I applied it to my own life… meaning my kids. My kids come to me about the oddest things that really do not need my immediate attention. I figure my kids are old enough and need to learn how to handle their own problems. So far it’s worked out fairly well (until the case of the missing lava rocks from the volcano, which to me was clearly a 2 but to the kid it was a 10 and code orange).
While Lily and Marshall didn’t stick to their own rule I will. With a baby and toddler in the house it really helps cut down on a lot of stress and teaches the kids how to solve problems on their own. If one of the kids came to me before about a missing toy or they’re fighting over the phone I would intervene. Now I just look at them and lovingly say 8 or Higher Bro and watch them walk away. Will they eventually stop coming to me for trivial things and learn what’s considered an 8, 9 or 10? Probably not but hey it’s giving me a break from being referee… for now.