There’s this girl I know. She is easily the most beautiful girl I’ve ever met in my life. I’ve known her since we were kids. We hung out a lot. Being around her made me feel like the ugly duckling.
I always wished I were as pretty as she was. My confidence took a hit every time we went somewhere together.
This went on for years. The boys always fell at her feet. It wasn’t until they realized she wasn’t interested that they noticed me standing there too. No one likes to be chosen second and no one wants to feel less than attractive.
We’re adults now with our own families and spouses and I still think she is absolutely gorgeous. I got to talking to her one day and she confessed something to me that blew me away. Over the years she actually thought that I was beautiful and she lacked the confidence I always thought she had. I just assumed because of how beautiful she is that she knew it and was comfortable in her own skin but she isn’t. Much like a lot of other women she finds flaws every time she looks at herself. She doesn’t see the beauty that I see. That everyone else sees.
This taught me a very valuable lesson. Never be envious of someone else. Everyone is fighting his or her own battles.