When I was a kid my family moved around a lot. A whole lot. It wasn’t always an easy adjustment but I managed to make a few friends every time we ended up some place new. For all of my adult life I lived in the same state up until last year. Making friends was not something I was worried about. A nice neighborhood and the kids making friends were all I cared about in the beginning. Now that we’ve been here for over a year I love our neighborhood and the kids have a ton of friends I find myself wondering how grown ups make friends.
While everyone else has weekend plans, play dates and a stream of constant phone calls I’m left with nothing but my own thoughts. Glad I make good company. Even my husband has friends to go to the golf course with. It’s kind of a cheat thou because he used to live here years ago and kept in touch with his closest friends.
I have met a few people since we’ve been here but if getting older has taught me anything it’s to start being a bit more picky with the people I let in my life.
How does an adult make friends this late in the game? Do I take out a personal ad? “SAHM seeking long lasting SATC type relationship. Must enjoy fashion, makeup wine and bitching about kids and husbands. Only serious inquiries need apply.”
Kids have it so easy. All they have to do is go up to a kid they think looks cool and say “do you wanna be my friend?” and BAM instant besties.
How do you make friends as an adult? Do you even bother?