Tuesday, November 4, 2014

Seeking Friends

    When I was a kid my family moved around a lot. A whole lot. It wasn’t always an easy adjustment but I managed to make a few friends every time we ended up some place new. For all of my adult life I lived in the same state up until last year. Making friends was not something I was worried about. A nice neighborhood and the kids making friends were all I cared about in the beginning. Now that we’ve been here for over a year I love our neighborhood and the kids have a ton of friends I find myself wondering how grown ups make friends.

   While everyone else has weekend plans, play dates and a stream of constant phone calls I’m left with nothing but my own thoughts. Glad I make good company. Even my husband has friends to go to the golf course with. It’s kind of a cheat thou because he used to live here years ago and kept in touch with his closest friends.

   I have met a few people since we’ve been here but if getting older has taught me anything it’s to start being a bit more picky with the people I let in my life.

   How does an adult make friends this late in the game? Do I take out a personal ad? “SAHM seeking long lasting SATC type relationship. Must enjoy fashion, makeup wine and bitching about kids and husbands. Only serious inquiries need apply.”

   Kids have it so easy. All they have to do is go up to a kid they think looks cool and say “do you wanna be my friend?” and BAM instant besties.

How do you make friends as an adult? Do you even bother?

                                                                   NaBloPoMo November 2014


  1. I have been in that boat. After having a kid, I weeded out the bad and didn't have anything left. I struggled and was so excited to randomly reconnect with people I grew up with but was never friends with. Now they are my best friends and family.

  2. It's definitely a lot harder to make friends as an adult! Are there local groups you can join that fit your interests? I recommend checking out Meetup.com. I have met some fellow new moms that way!

  3. I agree with Bev. Join in groups or take classes in things you enjoy. YMCA / Moms groups....

  4. I have one great friend who is in a different stage of life than I am. Her daughter is a little older than my kids and she just got married. So she is in a newish relationship and I never really get to see her. Now here I am a SAHM and I have no one really to talk to. It is hard to make friends. There are people who are in my life but really I don't see them as someone who would make a great friend. I have been hoping that I could make a friend with one of the moms in my sons headstart class but so far it isn't happening. I am sorry I don't have any advice. Just wanted to stop by and let you know you are not alone.

  5. This is something that terrifies me. Until 6 months ago, I had lived in the same town from the day I was born. I've had the same friends for as long as I can remember. Although I've only moved a half-hour away, I still feel lonely since it's a little tougher to find time in our busy schedules to get together. Almost-Husband and I have talked about moving further away and I just don't know that I could do it! I need my people!

    I hope you find some good friends that fill your heart with joy and laughter. When you do, update us and tell us how you did it!

  6. It's definitely tough making friends as an adult. I've found that signing up my kids for gym classes and activities has been the best way to meet other parents and make playdates! -Ana