As parents I think it’s safe to say that we would do anything within our powers to make our children happy. At times situations come up that we have absolutely no control over and we feel helpless because we can’t help our kids.
I have one kid in particular that is an over achiever when it comes to school. She is beyond brilliant. Over the past two years I have watched her flourish more than I could even have imagined. She was already getting straight A’s but lately she has been racking up a ton of academic awards. My desk is full of ribbons, medals and trophy with more competitions coming up soon.
A couple of months ago I was asked by the school for my permission to test her for the gifted program. I of course said “yes”. She passed the first test with a pretty high score. We waited patiently for the next round of testing which finally came this week.
I received the call from the school psychiatrist with the test scores. My little girl missed it by three points. The psychiatrist asked if I would be the one to break the news to my baby because it would be better coming from me “the person she trusts the most”. I agreed but was not looking forward to it.
How do you break news like that to a kid who succeeds at everything academically? Who strives for greatness with every assignment and will argue with a teacher on why she received a “B”?
It wasn’t easy but I did it and as I expected she was in tears. For two days now she has been upset. I have kids that are content with making B’s and C’s because that’s who they are. They have other strengths that shine through. So to have a child hurt because she isn’t “gifted” is crushing.
The thing is, it’s just a title, and because of her test scores in class she is still going to be in all honors classes next year. However, that just isn’t good enough for her. She wants to be “gifted”. I’ll give her the time she needs to get past this and in the mean time I will continue to praise her for all of her achievements and let her know that just because a test didn’t label her “gifted” she is still special beyond belief.