There is nothing wrong with getting married and having a ton of kids. I’m not knocking marriage at all. In fact, I encourage marriage and family. However, I also am all about being a badass, career minded female that does it all. Kids, work, spouse, all of that! I’m just tired of the world dictating to us women what we’re supposed to do with our lives. It starts when we’re little girls and we’re given baby dolls and taught how to play house. It’s like it was ingrained in our adolescent minds that we had to be moms and homemakers, not career minded go getters, while the men went out to become the breadwinners.
Now that we are all grown up, we struggle day to day with the decision of what we should be doing. Stay home and raise our kids or be the career minded women we’ve always dreamed of becoming. Why shouldn’t we do both? We can be the best mom and wife at home while being a kick ass, career minded CEO. Not only do I know it’s possible, but I recommend it. Focusing on your career is so important for you for so many reasons.
Perks to Being a Career Minded Mama
It Builds independence
There is no better feeling in the world than being able to go out and buy your own things and pay your own bills. Yes, I know back in the day Destiny’s Child was all about “Bills, Bills, Bills,” and let’s face it, no woman wants to be with a man that can’t pull his own weight or provide for his family. But what about being able to take care of ourselves? What about the satisfaction you get from being able to do it on your own if you have to? Ladies, if you didn’t know already, I’m here to tell you that independence is sexy.
It Gives You Stability
Marriage is a beautiful thing. But lets be honest, things happen in life. Vows don’t always stick and husbands can lose their jobs. Either way, you don’t have to stress out too much because you made sure you were prepared and focused on being a career minded hard worker. There is nothing wrong with being the breadwinner in the home. It happens all of the time and it makes us stronger.
Something to Focus on outside of Marriage
When you get married and have kids, it’s so easy to lose yourself in your family. You get into a routine and begin to push your own hopes and dreams aside so you can be there for your kids. You do this because no one can care for them like you. During all of this, you have career goals in the back of your mind but tell yourself you’ll get to it later. What happens if later doesn’t come? There is always going to be a reason you want to push back your goals. But don’t do it!
It Shows Your Kids How to Be Independent
Your children watch your every move. They soak up everything they can from you. They watch you more than you know and your kids look up to you. Be the best role model your kid can ever have. By watching you fulfill your dreams they will want to as well when they get older, especially if you have a daughter. Let her see mommy being independent and career minded. I guarantee it will stick with her.
Have Your Own Identity
Being a mom and wife is always top priority. They are, generally, the most fulfilling roles a woman will ever have, but who were youbefore this fabulous family came into your life? You were an individual. You were free to be you. And if that was a career minded lady, unearth her once again! Remember: It’s a good thing to have a life and do things outside of the family that you give your all to.
A Confidence Builder
It’s great getting compliments from our kids and spouses, but to be honest, sometimes we feel like they should be singing our praises! It’s different out in the world though. When we do a job well and receive approval from a total stranger, there’s something cathartic about it that makes us feel amazing! Like we can take on the world or at the very least get through the day.
Don’t Worry about What Other People Think
On your path to greatness, people will try to tear you down. They’ll make snide comments about who’s taking care of your kids while you’re off living your dreams. Guess what? They would have something to say even if you weren’t. So don’t worry about outside opinions. How’s that saying go? “Those that mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” It’s true. Your family will support you because they love you and want to see you happy.
I’m not saying run off and leave your husband or ignore your kids to be a solely career minded workaholic. I just want you to be the best you can be, and not forget who you are and what your dreams are. Be true to yourself and everything you aspire to be. It’s not going to be easy. It’s going to take a lot of work, but don’t give up. At the end of the long, tiring day, you owe it to yourself to have everything you want.