I’ll start this by saying kids are great. There is nothing in the world like giving birth to another human being. The experience is a blessing and it’s life changing. I really do mean it is life changing. Once you become a parent you have another person that you are responsible for. Spontaneity no longer exists. I totally believe you can still do what ever you want once you have kids but you now have to plan everything around this little person. So if your goal is to have kids one day there are some things I highly recommend you do before that day comes.
Travel the world
You may already have a place in mind. Whether you want to go to a fancy Bed and Breakfast in Georgia, spend a week in an Italian villa or back pack across Europe you need to do it before you have kids. Imagine having to get passports for a whole family and then trying to sight see once you get to your destination. Not to mention the small fortune it would cost. Do it now then when you do have kids you’ll have awesome stories to tell.
Go to school
This may seem like a no brainer but a lot of people think it’s best to take time off after high school. It starts off as one year and turns in to many more. Then before you know it you’re trying to juggle school and kids while trying to keep your sanity. Go to school; get your education so you can secure a good future for not only yourself but your little ones as well.
Many people get a roommate or two to save money and that is the smart thing to do when you’re first starting out on your own but then you go from a roommate to living with your significant other and next thing you know you’ve got a full blown family. Take the time to live by yourself. There is nothing like waking up in your own home with no one to answer to. Hell walking around naked is a pleasure that gets taken for granted. If you take some time for yourself to live alone you’ll be so glad you did once you have kids.
Appreciate your body
It’s ok to take care of yourself but don’t obsess with how you look right now. Chances are you are beautiful and just being extremely hard on yourself. Once you have kids and your body changes you’re going to wish you appreciated your post baby body and realize you didn’t look bad after all.
Save your money
Again, another no brainer but saving money is usually something people don’t think about until the baby is already on the way and at that point it gets kind of hard because the money is getting spent faster than it can be made. Having a baby is expensive, raising a kid costs even more so make sure you’re financially prepared so you can enjoy your new bundle of joy instead of being stressed out about how to take care of it.
Get to know your spouse
Much like living by yourself is important it’s also important for you and your spouse to live alone before having kids so you can get to know one another. Spend time with just the two of you and develop a bond. Once baby comes along you really will only have each other to depend on and that bond will keep you together when things get stressful.
It’s a lot harder to party and be hung over the next day when you have kids. So live your life and have fun. Life will still be fun once you have a family but it will be a different kind of fun. So party, get shit faced and then enjoy the silence as you suffer from a hang over the next day with no kids to bother you asking for breakfast.
These are just some of the things I think are important to do before having kids but I highly recommend you make your own list of goals and start checking them off your list. Don’t worry if you don’t get them all done. At least once you become a parent you’ll have an adorable little partner to tackle the rest of your list with.